Usually, The Lyke Aesthetic features articles about the best places to go, the newest influencers in the Chicago area, and the best music to play by indie Chicago artists. As of late, however, I’ve been inspired to share personal stories from my experience with these amazing people, places, sounds and gatherings. After my recent social media break this past weekend, I realized there are some pretty good side-effects to going off the grid and turning into a hermit crab (maybe not-so-much a hermit crab, but you get my point, hopefully). Here are three reasons why (occasionally) stay inside and occasionally miss the open mic.
Reason #1 Werk Werk Werk Werk Werk Werk
(Insert Cardi B voice) We all know Allie Lyke be at all the shows and be chatting with all the artists, and what not. And that’s all well and good, especially when there’s amazing energy and work is getting done! Everyone’s happy when the media get posted, relationships are built, and the vibe is positive. Still, no matter what my intentions are--whether I’m covering an event or not--I end up turning it into a work opportunity. I could be out, just showing a friend support, not for blog or brand promotion, and yet it always turns into work. Most of the time it’s because I’ll get an idea or meet a new brand/influencer and say “That would be great for my site. I think my audience would love them, their product, and/or their story!” Other times, it’s because people recognize my face and say, “Hey, you should share me on your blog!” At home, all that shit stops! There are no brands to obsess over except for my own, I’m not obligated to speak with anyone outside of my home other than family and close friends, and I’m the only one that matters...outside of my boyfriend...who I love with all my heart (awkward smile emoji).
The last time I publicly took a break was with Markeyla (Siren). Listen to "Calling In Black" Moderated by Thug Scholar
Reason #2 They Don’t Love You Like I Love You
On a serious note, the space and time I make for my boyfriend is very sacred to me. I like to think that my work revolves around my lovelife in a positive way in that it doesn’t intrude or impede on the relationship we have with each other even though we work in similar industries. As always, when greatness is spotted out together, our evenings get interrupted. “Hey, y’all. What, y’all covering this event? We should do something soon (proceeds to share detailed business plan of new idea).” Not that we have a problem with hearing those wonderful ideas, but we’re trynna do bae things tonight, bruh, chill. Sometimes, before we go out, I’ll say to him, “I want to do something where we won’t see anybody or anyone that we know.” He usually responds with, “Okay, you wanna play Dragon Ball?” and he’ll break out the emulator as if we weren’t about to leave. And I’ll take off my bomb outfit, wipe off my beat face, and pick up a controller like it’s nothing. It may not always be a video game inspired by the greatest anime of all time, though. Sometimes, he’ll be making music and we’ll get caught up in freestyling (Quinn being the better rapper, of course). Sometimes we’ll theorize over Rick & Morty Season 2. Other times, we’ll be stuck on the couch, suffering from the itis after whipping up a new IG recipe (I made Mexican street corn for dinner yesterday). No matter what, home allows us a time to do fun things together without any disruptions from the outside world.
Reason #3 Black Girl In Ohm
I’m not sure if you guys knew this, or followed me during the week of 420, but I have been practicing yoga for about 5 months now. I used to practice in 2013, but stopped after a bad break up had me walking around all of Chicago. I restarted my practice in January, after a trial membership with Sat Nam Yoga in the West Loop area, and have been Om’d out ever since. I may not be apart of a saged-out studio, but I find comfort in practicing in my apartment. Although yoga isn’t my only hobby in the crib--I cook, draw, and write rhymes to pass the time, as well--it’s been proven the most effective when dealing with my day-to-day emotional struggles (did I mention that I have anxiety). To be honest, the reason I’m so energetic when I’m out and about at these events is because I take the time to rest and with yoga my body is allowed to extend itself and and restore itself simultaneously. I also have time to let go of everything--good or bad--that affects me at that point in time, letting go of everything that doesn’t serve me and keeping everything that ascends me. Yeah, it’s like that with this body.
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When do you find yourself staying indoors and turning down the turn up? What do you do? Let me know in the comments section!